Reading is Sexy. Do It More. Do It Often.

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My favorite thing to do for as long as I can remember is read. I have always enjoyed getting lost in other worlds with interesting characters, learning from the stories of incredible real-life heroes, or diving into a more prescriptive book to increase my business acumen. I enjoy reading so much that I majored in English in college just so I could spend four years with books!

Now, I’m a bit old school and prefer to read a physical book, rather than use an electronic reader (I need a break from screens!). Though, I will admit, I have finally adopted, and adapted to, audio books. It took me several years to get over my self-righteous approach to reading and finally get an Audible membership. Listening to books just didn’t feel “right.” But I’ve found a happy medium. Ninety percent of the books I listen to are for business or personal development. It’s the fastest way to absorb the most amount of information that I can then translate quickly into action (pro tip: set your Audible to at least 1.5X to go even faster). Reading for pleasure, though? I will always pick up a “real” book for that.

Since my 2019 growth plan includes a focus on finance and leadership, many of my books this year will trend towards those topics. But I still have a lot of great fiction to read too! In no particular order, here’s what’s on my 2019 reading list:

  1. Leaders: Myth and Reality by Stanley McChrystal and Jeff Eggers
  2. Winston Churchill by his Personal Secretary: Recollections of the Great Man by a Woman Who Worked for Him by Elizabeth Nel
  3. Financial Intelligence: A Manager’s Guide to Knowing What the Numbers Really Mean by Karen Berman and Joe Knight
  4. Working on Yourself Doesn’t Work: 3 Simple Ideas That Will Instantaneously Transform Your Life by Ariel & Shya Kane
  5. Great at Work: How Top Performers Do Less, Work Better, and Achieve More by Morten T. Hansen
  6. The Millionaire Messenger: Make a Difference and a Fortune Sharing Your Advice by Brendon Burchard
  7. Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us by Daniel H. Pink
  8. Good Leaders Ask Great Questions by John C. Maxwell
  9. The Women by T.C. Boyle
  10. Leaders Eat Last: Why Some Teams Pull Together and Others Don’t by Simon Sinek
  11. Rocket Fuel: The One Essential Combination That Will Get You More of What You Want from Your Business by Gino Wickman and Mark C. Winters
  12. The Nightingale by Kristin Hannah
  13. Turn the Ship Around!: A True Story of Turning Followers into Leaders by L. David Marquet
  14. The Gatekeepers: How the White House Chiefs of Staff Define Every Presidency by Chris Whipple
  15. Harvard Business Review’s Guide to Finance Basics for Managers
  16. The McGraw-Hill 36-Hour Course: Finance for Non-Financial Managers
  17. The Boston Girl by Anita Diamant
  18. The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho
  19. The Road Less Stupid: Advice from the Chairman of the Board by Keith J. Cunningham
  20. The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing World by Dalai Lama and Desmond Tutu
  21. The Universe Has Your Back: Transform Fear to Faith by Gabrielle Bernstein
  22. Year of Yes: How to Dance It Out, Stand In the Sun and Be Your Own Person by Shonda Rhimes
  23. The Culture Code: The Secrets of Highly Successful Groups by Daniel Coyle
  24. Becoming by Michelle Obama
  25. It’s What I Do: A Photographer’s Life of Love and War by Lynsey Addario

Now, my goal is to read at least 52 books this year, just as I did last year. This list comes up a bit short. However, I know there are going to be several bestselling, must-reads that are released throughout the year. Case in point, my favorite book of 2018 was only published in the 30 days. In addition, my fiction choices are usually more spontaneous, so I have to leave some room for picking up a few light beach reads while I’m on vacation. Hell, three new books (not on my list) arrived on my doorstep from Amazon just since starting this post!

Whether reading on the beach, listening on the drive to work, hosting a book club, or adding another book (that I may or may not ever read) to my collection, books are my passion. Whatever the reasons you have for picking up a book, do it more and do it often.

You can follow what I read throughout the year on Goodreads and start your own 2019 Reading Challenge. Please share your reading list in the comments. I am always looking for my next favorite book.

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The Who, What, When, Where, How of Growth Plans

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I love this time of year, mostly because it’s the turning of the page, a fresh start. Blank calendars, blank notebooks – they scream of possibility and opportunity. This year, rather than simply outlining my goals for the year, I decided to be more purposeful and create a growth plan.

Now, goals are great. Without them you really have no direction or focus throughout the year. I’ve definitely got goals (in business and in my personal life), that’s the starting point. Goals are the target. Growth plans are how you become the person you need to be in order to hit them. Traveling to Paris is a goal. Building up the confidence (and letting go of your ego) in order to invite your mother (who you haven’t spoken to in over a year) on this trip of a lifetime (and perhaps going to some family therapy first), is the growth plan.

Business growth plans are a strategic planning activity that enable businesses leaders to plan and track growth while allocating limited resources towards specific business objectives. If you aren’t doing this in your business or for (or with) your Executive and leadership team, you should be. It’s a great exercise to purposefully plan to succeed now and in the future.

You’ve likely heard of growth plans in business. But what about personal growth plans? How many of us are doing this in our personal life? A personal growth plan is a strategic planning activity that enables you to plan and track your growth while allocating limited resources towards specific personal goals. What we focus on expands. Are you putting intention behind the activities you are filling your 2019 calendar with? Are you all over the place with goals and have pages of things you want to do someday? That’s not going to cut it. Time and attention are limited resources. In order to grow, you must purposefully choose conferences, books, coaches, and more, to get you where you want to go. That’s what a personal growth plan is all about.

The first step to creating a growth plan is determining your overall goals for the year. Here are a few of mine:

  • Write 1-2 books with Adam
  • Get my real estate license
  • Read 52 books
  • Pay off all non-mortgage debt, max out my Roth IRA, and start looking for our first investment property
  • Lose weight for good and maintain new lifestyle
  • Travel to North Carolina monthly
  • Attend Muster or Sheepdog Response

Once you have your big goals for the year outlined, get a bit more specific. The goals are the WHAT you’re going to accomplish. You need to drill down on the WHO. And the who is you. Who do you need to become and what areas do you need to improve on in your life to hit these goals? What do you want to learn? What skills do you need to hone? Do you want to work on your follow-though, your public speaking skills, your spirituality, or your 5K time? For me, I want to work on my financial knowledge, my leadership skills, my overall health and fitness, and overcoming my fear of judgement and overthinking in order to take more action!

After you are clear on what you want to work on, the next step is breaking that down into actionable and measurable steps. For example, I want to write and create more. That is incredibly abstract and easy to dismiss and push to next week or next year. So, what does writing and creating more actually mean? How do I want to realize that growth? Through my blog. Taking that once step further, I plan on writing one blog post a week in 2019, for a total of 52 blog posts. That is an aggressive goal for me, but that’s what growth is all about. Testing our limits and seeing what we are capable of. Publicly proclaiming your intention helps with accountability too.

Below is an example of my personal growth plan for 2019. I have divided my growth plan into two main categories: Learn and Act. I could get lost in learning, if I don’t purposely design ways to take action on what I learn. All of these items are designed to help me get out of my comfort zone, to do hard things, and to push me beyond what I thought I was capable of.

LEARN:

  • Quantum Leap (January 24)
  • Inman Connect in NYC (January 28 – February 1)
  • Keller Williams Family Reunion in New Orleans (February 15-19)
  • Behind Every Leader in Austin (May 3)
  • Career Visioning
  • 306090 & Success Through Others
  • Muster or Sheepdog Response
  • Chief of Staff Mastermind
  • Randy Mayhew School of Real Estate
  • Read 52 books (2019 reading list coming next week!)

ACT:

  • Launch http://www.TheSheepdogLife.com
  • 52 Lead & Assist blog posts
  • Host one webinar each quarter
  • Host Lead & Assist 4 week webinar series
  • Coach two clients
  • Lead and engage with Reading is Sexy monthly book club
  • Workout a minimum of 5 times a week

I’m still working on adding in some conferences as dates are announced, finalizing my 2019 reading list, and creating a content calendar for my blog.  But the framework is there. I not only have a goal of growing my leadership skills (through education and by coaching/training others), increasing my financial acumen (through books and courses), and become a more well-rounded individual through experiences (traveling and creating), but I have specific actions I am going to take to get there.

Once you have your growth plan outlined, it’s time to take that list and add all events, vacations, and deadlines to your calendar. When it’s scheduled, it’s real. Pro tip: If going on vacation(s) this year is important to you, then even if you don’t have the entire trip planned, at least block off the dates in your calendar. It will give you something to look forward to and it will help push you on your other goals to make it happen.

Let’s recap how to create a growth plan:

  1. Outline your 2019 goals (WHAT)
  2. Translate your goals into specific areas for improvement and growth (WHO)
  3. Create actionable and measurable steps for your growth (HOW)
  4. Schedule all events, deadlines, vacations, etc. in your calendar (WHEN & WHERE)
  5. Grow!

If you take the time to plan out your year in advance in detail, with deadlines, success is inevitable. Almost… There is one caveat to all of this. You have to do the work. When it’s 5am and your alarm goes off, you have to put on your lulus and hit the gym. You need to block off two hours each week to write your blog post. You need to put your phone away at X time each night to spend time with your kids. You need to save a percent of your income each week in a travel fund. It is the small daily habits and activities that will ultimately dictate your success.

Your growth plan is not a one and done activity. This is something I would recommend you revisit each week during your Sunday planning time. What do you need to adjust on your calendar in the week ahead in order to hit your growth goals? Do you need to double down on your workouts or writing time? Who or what do you need to say no to or eliminate from your day, week, or life? Harsh? Perhaps. But this is your life. The second you let someone else start dictating what is right, what is important, what you should or shouldn’t do, is the second you are no longer living your own life.

Creating a growth plan is all about you. Be selfish with your growth and with your time. Ultimately, by become the best version of yourself, you are able to give the best of yourself to others. Who can argue with that?

Share your 2019 growth plan in the comments!

Lead and Assist Favorite Things Giveaway

April is all about Admins.

how to take betterfamily vacationpictures (1)I want to honor all of you who have chosen this career and who are committed to bringing clarity, levity, and leadership to this position. Our roles are each so unique, but one thing remains the same: We do whatever it takes to get the job done.

So, here’s my little gift to you. Over the next couple of weeks I will be sharing a few of my favorite things with you and on April 26th (Administrative Professionals Day!), one lucky EA will win all of my favorite things. To get a sneak peek of the goodies, connect with me on Instagram.

To enter, just fill out this survey and click submit. 

I look forward to hearing your answers and providing even more value to you in the future!



Behind Every Leader is Coming to the East Coast! 

Join me and Adam on April 21 in Washington D.C. as we share how we have created a strategic partnership while working together for the past 6+ years. Top Executive Assistants and their Execs will be there to learn and share how the power of the partnership helps everyone succeed.

Behind Every Leader has become globally recognized as the premier event for senior Executive Assistants and Celebrity Assistants around the world.

The conference has been referenced as the Epicenter for the top 1% in the industry. In addition to congregating with like minded peers and career driven individuals, attendees gain exclusive access to a cutting edge curriculum presented by prolific speakers.

Prepare to immerse yourselves in career enhancing seminars, interactive workshops, compelling panel discussions and expect to adopt a slew of best practices to integrate in your daily routine.

Be inspired to become outstanding when we hear from Executive Assistants to high profile business tycoons, celebrities and inspirational leaders live on the BEL stage!

Behind Every Leader has been referenced by the WSJ as ‘a gathering of powerhouses’. And rightly so.

Don’t miss your change to network with the best in the business!

Get registered today!

Executive Assistants Unite!

melburne-ea-groupA few months ago, Carmel Bond, founder of the Melbourne EA Group (MEAG) reached out to me after seeing my blog. Turns out we both work for real estate companies, just on opposite sides of the world! This is what is so cool about my career – EAs/PAs/Executive Secretaries/Chiefs of Staff/Coordinators of Chaos are so willing to connect and share, are so passionate about teaching other how to be successful in this role, and most importantly, so quick to support each other in this exciting, challenging, and often crazy world we’ve chosen to live and work in.

This week I had the privilege of being the featured guest on the Melbourne EA Group blog. Check it out and while you’re there take a look at the amazing work Carmel and her team are doing to support, teach, and inspire their fellow Executive Assistants.

behind-every-leaderHere’s another example of the power of the Executive Assistant network around the world. About three years ago I attend an amazing conference in NYC – Behind Every Leader. I felt like I had finally found my people and was in total awe of the presenters – all either current or former EAs to the greats like Jeff Bezos, Eric Schmidt, Mark Zuckerberg, JFK Jr, Nate Berkus, and Magic Johnson. I remember emailing my Exec, Adam, after the first day and telling him how amazing it was and how much I loved my career as an Executive Assistant. And he told me that one day I would be on that stage. Little did I know one day would come so soon!

Fast forward to sometime last year when Victoria Rabin, CEO and Founder of Executive Assistants Organization, which hosts Behind Every Leader, saw Adam’s blog about strategic partnerships and connected with us about speaking at Behind Every Leader this year in Washington DC and NYC. Circle complete. Victoria is a consummate badass and a huge advocate for the EA/Exec strategic partnership. I am honored to be a part of anything she’s doing and I hope I can inspire just one EA like those amazing individuals did for me several years ago.

Want to learn more about Behind Every Leader? Check out my interview with Victoria and Adam as we gear up for Behind Every Leader in DC in April. 

Your turn! Share where you are from, one of your recent successes, and one of your current challenges in the comments. Together, we can all elevate our careers and master the art of leading and assisting.

 

5 Ways Executive Assistants Can Add Value to Their Company

Last week at a networking event I was called an “office girl” and a “very powerful person” within about 10 minutes by two different people. Yes, I am female. And yes, I work in an office. But that’s about the extent of my identification with the label “office girl.” I mean, what is an office girl, anyway? While that devaluation of my chosen profession always gets to me a little, I’ve been called worse. However, it did get me thinking about why that one individual called me a “very powerful person” in the first place. Did I really live up to that moniker? And how do career Executive Assistants continue to grow in their role and earn that title?

Here’s what I know: Great Executive Assistants are leaders, invaluable resources, and influencers (aka powerful people). But to be seen as such, we must provide exceptional value, not just to our Executive, but to the organization at large. We must go above and beyond the traditional EA responsibilities and think outside the box.

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Below are five ways Executive Assistants can add value to their company:

  1. Keep information, the right information, flowing. Executive Assistants are in a unique position where they have the privilege of learning from and interacting daily with the top Executives in the organization. A large part of an Executive Assistant’s role is to act as a gatekeeper. Yet, gatekeepers are not meant to keep people out; rather they should let the right people in at the right time. Control the flow of information, do not stop it. You can either hoard information and use your position of power as a crutch, or you can share what you learn with your co-workers and be seen as a leader, a resource, and an influencer at all levels of your organization. Information should flow up, down, and sideways throughout the company – and it often hinges on the successful communication skills of the EA. That does not mean you should be an open book. Your first priority is to maintain confidentiality and the confidences of your Executive. But understanding what information can and should be shared with which team members is an important part of our roles.
  2. Volunteer to lead special projects. This may already be a key part of your role (as it is mine), but if not, step-up! Companies today are doing more with less and that often means with less people. But I imagine your Exec and organization are not slowing down. Often there are new projects or initiatives that the organization wants to work on, but they don’t fall into any particular category or department. That’s where you come in. Executive Assistants are problem solvers and fixers. Executive Assistants are detail-oriented, organized, perfectionistic, and the ultimate project managers. Executive Assistants do whatever it takes to get the job done. You are uniquely equipped to handle projects that are important to the CEO, but may not require a full-time hire (yet).
  3. Tell stories. Are you great at writing or marketing? Perhaps you could create a company newsletter, take over your Executive’s social media accounts, start a company blog, write feature articles for local publications, or pitch stories to national media outlets. Content marketing and public relations are king. If your company doesn’t have a PR or marketing department and you are great at telling stories – then that’s your niche! Positive, free media mentions for your organization will definitely set you apart.
  4. Create or join a committee. Are you passionate about wellness or company culture? Then create or join a committee that focuses on those issues and share your insights. Better yet, listen. As an influential person in the organization, you may be looked to for all the answers. Instead, ask questions and get other’s to share their ideas. The most powerful person in the room is not the one who talks the most, but the one who can take all opinions and information and make a decision that best serves the company.
  5. Draw on your strengths and share your knowledge throughout the organization. What can you do better than anyone else? The ultimate mark of a leader and an influencer is to teach. Find opportunities to share your knowledge with your co-workers. Could you hold a seminar about event planning with the other administrative staff in your company? Perhaps you could train department managers on a new software the company is rolling out. Start and lead a monthly book club. Or hold a class about managing up for Executive Assistants.

 

Executive Assistants are powerful people. But that title is not just given. It is earned by providing extensive value not just to your Exec, but to the whole organization. Above are just a few examples of how one can add value – there are hundreds more. But it is the rockstar EA, the very powerful EA, that actually does them.

How do you go above and beyond in your role and add value to your company? Share in the comments below!

Recommended Reading for Executive Assistants

Did you know that 42% of college graduates never read another book after college? And 80% of US families did not buy or read a book last year? Do not let yourself become one of those statistics!

Anyone who knows me, knows that books are my thing. I am a bibliophile: I don’t just love to read, I love the feel of books, the weight, the texture, the cover art, the smell (library books are like a drug). I do not own a Kindle or Nook and I never will. Ultimate fantasy? Being blindfolded, led into a dark room, and having a spectacular library revealed to me à la Beauty and the Beast.

0ppkxwtyh0g-clem-onojeghuo“Books are a uniquely portable magic.”
– Stephen King

My reading list is always in flux. It will continue to change and evolve based on my priorities, new projects at work, or my current interests. I always read what Adam reads, so my list will adjust based on his books, as well. Every EA’s reading list will be different because of the industry that they are in and the Executive that they work for. However, you can never go wrong with books about leadership and personal and professional growth. Other great topics to explore are organization, public relations, operations, and business and finance. Some of my favorite books are biographies or autobiographies – what an incredible amount of lessons you can learn from the success and failures of others!

Here’s what’s on my reading list so far for 2017:
  • Tools of Titans by Tim Ferriss
  • Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking by Susan Cain
  • The CEO’s Secret Weapon: How Great Leaders and Their Assistants Maximize Productivity and Effectiveness by Jan Jones
  • Fierce Conversations: Achieving Success at Work & in Life, One Conversation at a Time by Susan Scott
  • For Immediate Release: Shape Minds, Build Brands, and Deliver Results with Game-Changing Public Relations by Ron Torossian
  • Money – Master the Game: 7 Simple Steps to Financial Freedom by Tony Robbins
  • Leaders Eat Last: Why Some Teams Pull Together and Others Don’t by Simon Sinek
  • Resilience: Hard Won Wisdom for Living a Better Life by Eric Greitens
  • Rising Strong: The Reckoning. The Rumble. The Revolution. by Brene Brown
  • The Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz
  • The Everything Store: Jeff Bezos and the Age of Amazon by Brad Stone
  • The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life by Mark Manson
  • The Greatest: My Own Story by Muhammad Ali
  • The Obstacle is the Way: The Timeless Art of Turn Trials Into Triumph by Ryan Holiday
  • Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance by Angela Duckworth
  • The President Will See You Now: My Stories and Lessons from Ronald Reagan’s Final Years by Peggy Grande
  • What the CEO Wants You to Know: Using Business Acumen to Understand How Your Business Really Works by Ram Charan
  • Seeing the Big Picture: Business Acumen to Build Your Credibility, Career, and Company by Kevin Cope
  • #AskGaryVee: One Entrepreneur’s Take on Leadership, Social Media, and Self-Awareness by Gary Vaynerchuk
Here are some additional recommendations specifically for Executive Assistants:
  • Managing Up: How to Forge an Effective Relationship with Those Above You by Rosanne Badowski
  • Ways and Means for Managing Up: 50 Strategies for Helping You and Your Boss Succeed by F. William Smullen
  • Fairy Tale Interrupted: A Memoir of Life, Love, and Loss by Rosemarie Terenzio
  • Rocket Fuel: The One Essential Combination That Will Get You More of What You Want From Your Business by Gino Wickman and Mark C. Winters
  • Be the Ultimate Assistant: A Celebrity Assistant’s Secrets to Working with Any High-Powered Employer by Bonnie Low-Kramen
  • Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity by David Allen
  • The One Thing by Gary Keller and Jay Papasan
  • The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings on Authenticity, Connection and Courage by Brene Brown
  • On Writing by Stephen King
  • Jab, Jab, Jab, Right Hook by Gary Vaynerchuk
  • Women, Work & the Art of Savoir Faire by Mirelle Guiliano
And just because I could talk about books for days, here are some of my all-time favorites:
  • Fearless: The Undaunted Courage and Ultimate Sacrifice of Navy SEAL Team SIX Operator Adam Brown by Eric Blehm
  • Unbroken: A WWII Story of Survival, Resilience, and Redemption by Laura Hillenbrand
  • Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn
  • A Dog’s Purpose: A Novel for Humans by W. Bruce Cameron
  • A Widow for One Year by John Irving
  • Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail by Cheryl Strayed
  • The Surrender Experiment: My Journey Into Life’s Perfection by Michael A. Singer
  • The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin

Looking for even more book recommendations? Follow me on Goodreads or email me!

What’s on your reading list for 2017?

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3 Things to Start Doing in 2017 and One Thing to Stop

blank-notebookOne of my very favorite things is a blank notebook. (Another favorite thing is the Pilot Precise V5 Rolling Ball Extra Fine black pen. Executive Assistants and their office supplies, am I right?) Back to the notebook… Empty pages to fill with ideas and plans for the future. And lists. Lots of lists. When the clock strikes midnight on December 31st, it’s as if the collective world population opens a fresh notebook. White blank pages. A fresh start. A new beginning.

What will you write in the pages? If the idea of a blank notebook is daunting, then here are 3 ideas to get you started for the new year:

1.  Put your health first. For the past six years I’ve been completely focused on building my career (in between buying a house, getting married, acquiring a dog) and during that time I’ve gained over 50 pounds and lost a lot of confidence. I am a project manager by nature. Put a task or mission in front of me and I will get. shit. done. The project I have failed to work on for the past several years is me. But doing so will have the most impact on the rest of my life.

Executive Assistants are some of the hardest working and most selfless individuals I know – which means they often put themselves on the bottom of their to-do lists. Family, friends, their Executive, and the company all come first. I want you all to turn that to-do list upside down. YOU must come first. Your health is everything. You can not achieve what you want or give to those around you at the level you want to if your health is not in check. I’m talking directly to myself here too! Your energy, mental clarity, and mood are all effected when you are not fueling your body with proper nutrition and exercising regularly.

If I accomplish nothing else this year, but this one thing, I will have succeeded. If you are struggling to get into a fitness routine or looking for some accountability, let’s connect and support each other.  I have started a private Facebook group where we can work together to put ourselves first, while still crushing the rest of our goals at work and at home.

2.  Create more than you consume. How many times have you gotten lost in the black hole of Instagram? We have become a society that just consumes, whether that’s binge-watching The Walking Dead, stock-piling toiletries from Costco, ordering take-out, or skipping from Instagram to Facebook to LinkedIn to Snapchat to Twitter and back again looking for another hit. I am just as guilty as the next person, perhaps more so.

But I challenge you to create! Journal, paint, build a bookshelf, plan a charity walk, start writing your novel, get certified to teach yoga, host a dinner part and cook!, make your own holiday cards, plant a garden, hell, build a chicken coop and get some chickens! Just create. We all have such unique gifts to offer. That doesn’t mean I don’t want you to share them on Instagram, but perhaps during your scheduled social media time (remember, time blocking is key!).

3.  Leverage all non-essential tasks. There are only 24 hours in the day. Focus on what only you can do better than anyone else and what you actually enjoy doing, and leverage the rest. At the end of the year, I started my NOT to do list. Those items can either become another individual’s job description OR perhaps areas where you can simply outsource or ask for help. For example, at the office I was able to leverage all social media and marketing by making a key hire. This applies to your personal life as well. Perhaps you hire a housekeeper, or the neighborhood kid to mow your lawn, or a college student to do personal errands for you once a week. I would much rather spend time with my husband, working on a project, or traveling to visit my niece and nephew, then cleaning the house or running errands. Life is too short to do the dishes. I mean, someone has to do them, it just doesn’t have to be me. This year, it is particularly crucial for me to leverage as many tasks as possible so that I can accomplish #1 – putting my health first. Every time you begin a task, stop and ask yourself if someone else could do it, then go find that person! I might mean asking your mother for help, but sometimes we’ve just got to do what we’ve go to do.

And here’s one thing to stop doing in 2017 – in fact, stop right now!

comparisonStop comparing yourself to others. There is a great quote that goes something like, “Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle.” We are all flawed. Embracing those flaws is the first step in living a fulfilling life. We are all on our own journeys and you don’t know where someone else is on theirs. Everybody is better than you at something. The trick is to accept yourself and accept where you are on YOUR journey. It’s very easy to get stuck in our heads and think we’ll never be as good as whoever we’re comparing ourselves to. But there is no benefit in the comparison. In fact, it can actually paralyze you and derail you from your own goals. You stop yourself before you even get started because you don’t think you can ever be as fit as Jennifer Lopez (#bodygoals), as fearless as Indra Nooyi (#leadershipgoals), or as fun as Marie Forleo (#lifegoals). But we all must start somewhere. And if we don’t start, we’ll never be able to share our story and and inspire someone else along the way. Don’t get stuck in the comparison trap and just get started.

So what have you decided to tackle in 2017?  Are your goals big enough? If your goals don’t scare you, then you are not pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone and you’re not growing! None of my goals scared me, so I had to challenge myself to go back to the drawing board and think bigger. I’m still working through my my Future Self (a 3 year goal/visualization document) and making sure my goals scare the shit out of me. I hope you do the same.

Here’s to your best year yet! Cheers!